The only people you’ve ever committed your life to were your parents, and if you’re reading this article you’ve probably already moved out. So tying the knot with someone who has probably known you for less than half that time can be scary. The anxiety might make you reconsider your decision, cold feet aren’t unusual, but could it be something more than mere apprehension that’s concerning you? Unless your ultimate plan is to marry and divorce rich, it is essential that you know if you’re taking a turn for the worst by saying ‘I do’.
You don’t get along with your partner’s parents
There’s that dreaded tension when your soon-to-be parents-in-law come for a visit. For the next weekend, you can’t be comfortable in your own home (presuming that you live with your partner), impressing and attempting to bear with them is a continuous struggle as you count the hours to when they’ll leave. And you’re not even married yet.
It’s essential that you have good relations with your companion’s parents, as it may undermine your relationship with your partner. Ever heard of the saying “when you marry me, you marry my family”, who would want to be married into a family they couldn’t get along with?
You think He’ll change when you two get married
You want a whole litter, while he wouldn’t be bothered to have just one child. You’re thinking of moving to a bigger matrimonial home while he is satisfied with the current apartment, its closer to town after all.
Marriage isn’t going to magically transform him to suit to your preferences for your future together. He’ll still want to go out drinking with the boys. If you believe that you can ‘work it out along the way’, then you may be in for a few disappointments.
You’ve dated for less than a Year
Several people tend to rush into marriage, especially those doing it for all the wrong reasons (money, friends, looks, age, etc). During the first year both parties are well behaved around each other, still roaming throughout the honeymoon stage.
It’s recommended that a couple be together for two years, before having a wedding. The second year gives insight as to your partner’s real attributes. Take time to get to know your partner further.
You Haven’t Talked about Your Future
This is probably why you may be having the aforementioned problems. Most importantly, a couple needs to understand what they want for their future, and how they will support one another so as to achieve their goals. It is critical that the two go through it in detail. So you both want children, but how will you raise them? Questions on possible career paths should be answered as well. Do you both aim for similar goals and standards?
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