It doesn’t matter how long the two of you have been dating. It could be a couple of months or years. For one reason or another, you no longer want to pursue the relationship further. Terminating things can be difficult but it is has to be done. Only a coward will disappear or behave cruelly, hoping that their partner can read between the lines and leave.
Be man or woman enough to end things civilly. Matters of the heart are sensitive and we should always be mindful of how those who have given us their time and affection will be affected. Try to show your soon-to-be ex that you respect them as a human being even though the relationship didn’t work out.
Breaking up is something we would all love to avoid. However as soon as you have decided that you have come to your end, let your partner know soon. Prolonging things won’t make it easier. Chances are he/she can already tell that you are no longer in it and the wait is a form of torture for them.
Tell it to his/her face
Ending things over the phone is a big no-no. Even worse if by text. Don’t get a third person to do your dirty deed. Over social media should be punishable by a public flogging. Face your former love and let them know that you no longer wish to continue seeing them.
Tell them why
It is only fair to tell them the reason for the break up. This will greatly help in the moving on process. Not knowing and having to guess is brutal. Don’t be tempted to lie in order to sooth their ego. Relationships are all about learning something about ourselves and trying to change for the better.
Keep it classy
Keep things clean and dignified. Try to leave matters on a good note. Bitter words may be thrown by the dumpee. Allow them to vent out if they want but don’t be tempted to participate in an exchange. No use beating a man/woman who is already down. Walk away if things become heated. Avoid a public spectacle at all costs.
Don’t rub the break up in his/her face
There is no need to advertise to the whole world that you are now a single man/woman. Depending on how close the two of you were, allow the ex some time to mourn your departure. Don’t be in a hurry to upload pictures of your new flame on social media or chronic your current dating exploits to mutual friends.