You’ve probably heard of a bridezilla. A creature straight from your worst nightmare. According to stories and movies, you know that she is a complete pain in the neck. It is near impossible to reason with her. She makes everyone around her want to dash for the nearest exit. A few choice words jump to mind when you think of her. She has to get her way and in her bid to do so, she will hurt feelings and trample souls. She is inconsiderate, selfish, self-centered and irrational. Good thing you don’t know such a person, right?
The wedding planning process is stressful. It can put such a toll on even the best leveled of people. It can transform an otherwise sweet and timid person into a devil’s associate. You can’t blame your girl for wanting what could be the best day of her life to go smoothly. Watch as your friend or fiancée turns into something that makes you want to rip off your hairs.
How do you deal with this then?
Always remain calm: Yes, you have had it to here with her insane demands and childish rants but take the high road. Try not to fuel any arguments she starts. You cannot win this war and relationships may be destroyed if you let it get to you. Remember that this is but a short process and she will be back to her usual self soon.
Be supportive: Nobody should bear the brunt of organizing a wedding on her own. Show that you have her back. Keep your ears open to her insistent jabbering and complaining. We don’t want her bottling those feelings until she explodes. Be part of the process by attending meetings with her. Remember though that it’s her day and therefore, her decisions matter more. Don’t try to shove your opinion down her throat
Keep her relaxed: Offer her a foot-rub at the end of a stressful day. Help keep her mind pre-occupied with other things so she can take a break from all the hustle. Suggest a short trip or cook her a nice meal or have a movie marathon for a night.
It’s not you: Don’t take anything she does or say personally. Sometimes, she just wants a punch bag and you are the nearest. Try and keep a smile on your face. Find some humor in the whole situation. If you feel that she may have taken things too far, let a third party get involved or better yet, wait till the wedding is over to air out issues.