Just because you have been invited to a wedding does not mean that you have to attend it. It is perfectly fine not to attend the wedding if something comes up that prevents you from doing so. If you find yourself in such a situation, you ought to decline the invitation in such a way that the couple does not get offended.
The biggest reason why someone may not be able to attend a wedding is if he/she has plans for that day. Other reasons may include an invite from an acquaintance you do not know that well or just a wedding you don’t feel comfortable attending.
Be honest why you can’t attend
If your close friend invites you to a wedding but you can’t attend, the best thing you can do is be honest as to why you will not make it. If it is a destination wedding and you cannot afford to pay for yourself to attend it, make sure the couple knows this.
Most people who plan destination weddings know that not everybody will be able to attend the wedding due to the costs and they may have plans to cater for the transport costs for a few people so you may just get lucky.
Send your regards
Just because you cannot attend the wedding does not mean that you should not celebrate the union with the couple. Send your regards through a handwritten note or card and have it delivered to the couple at the wedding. This extra touch will be appreciated and will show the couple that you not attending the wedding is nothing personal.
Send a gift
You should not just stop with sending them your regards- go that extra mile and also send them a gift. A personalized gift is especially important if you are not attending the wedding as it shows the couple that you are thinking about them even when you are away. Sending them a gift is not an obligation for those couples you have not been in touch with for several years.
Do not ignore the invitation
The least you can do when you have no plans to attend the wedding is wait till the last minute to say so or ignore the invitation altogether. The couple has to know the number of people coming to the wedding for better planning and so you should inform them early if you will make it or not. The best way to go about this is to call the couple and then send back the Save the Date card as soon as you get it.