Of all the wedding decisions that have to be made, few can be as complex as selecting a maid of honor. It’s not a clear cut process as some may think it to be. Women are emotional by nature and missing out on an opportunity to be their friend’s right hand mate, could mean trouble for a friendship.
You would be forgiven for thinking that grown-ups would act more maturely. A wedding is one of those life events that has the potential of bringing out the worst in people. Who wouldn’t want to play a pivotal role in the happiest day of somebody they consider “closer than a sister”?
For women, selecting a second in command may be a tricky situation considering how many “close” friends they tend to have. Most women hoard friends. They have primary and secondary schools best friends. There is a college bestie and probably a workplace partner in crime. Not forgetting that friend that picked you for the coveted position for their own wedding.
The tag of war in a soon-to-be bride’s head can be excruciating. That said, here is how she can deal with it.
Go for the obvious choice
While there may be a couple of people to think over, chances are one of them topples them all. She is that one friend that has shown undying love and has seen you through your worst. She was there when you needed a shoulder to cry on. She jumps to mind when you want to tag somebody on s funny Facebook post. It also helps that she’s responsible enough to handle the tasks that come with being the main bridesmaid. Nobody else would deserve that spot. If anybody throws a fit over your selection, they are clearly more interested in themselves. It’s their day, not yours.
Today, many brides that find themselves in this pickle end up having two co-maids of honor. The titles may defer so that there is a maid and a matron of honor. Their duties are basically identical. Everyone can smile now. It’s a win-win situation.
Play the Family Card
This is among the last resorts. When it becomes obvious that a decision cannot be reached between two or more friends, go the family route and pick a relative. Ensure that it’s someone that you’re just as close to. Nobody can be mad at you now without looking like an inconsiderate diva. Blood is after all thicker than water.