Have you ever watched the movie The Best Man? In The Best Man, Lance Sullivan is just about to get married to his beloved sweetheart Mia. Sullivan wants best friend Harper Stewart to be his best man. But Harper is about to publish a novel that is based on their past love lives as best friends. What Lance (the groom to be) soon discovers is that one of those love lives was between Harper and his soon to be wife.
This movie captures the kind of best man you want to avoid at all costs; a ‘wife stealing’ best man. So allow us to suggest a list of qualities to look for when picking your best man.
There is no denying that the best man needs to be loyal. Your best man’s loyalty needs to manifest through his words and through his actions. A friend who keeps important details about your bride-to-be from you is not worth a place at your right hand on the wedding aisle. This is especially so when the details might have a big effect on your marriage. You need to make sure that your best man is loyal enough to tell you the truth, act towards your best interests and stand by your decisions.
A good best man needs to be able to help you make decisions about the wedding that may be above your head. This might include decisions about venues, honeymoon preparations and even family plans. Such a best man can save you from making mistakes that you could have avoided.
As the groom, all eyes are on you (and your bride) at the wedding. In the humdrum and jovial atmosphere of the occasion, one can become overwhelmed by the massive attention and expectations from the audience. ‘Is he holding his bride right? Is he too serious? Is he cutting the cake properly? These are among the questions inside your guests’ minds. A resourceful and helpful best man will help you to offload some of this pressure by making sure the important things are in order.
A late best man is much worse than a late groom. Sometimes people understand that the groom might be held up making final preparations before stepping onto the aisle. We therefore expect the best man to be his official timekeeper making sure he does not waste a second to meet his future wife at the altar and formalize their union. Choosing a best man who knows the value of time can save you from humiliation and instead give you a perfect score on the clock.