You may not realize this but your life is bound to change soon after the engagement. You won’t have to wait for the wedding to notice some of these changes. You’ve made it this far –the point where he went down on one knee and actually popped the big question. You are both ecstatic; him because you said yes, and you because you have probably been dreaming of this day all your life.
Advice for Newly Engaged Couples
Everyone is excited for you and they are looking forward to the wedding. Constant questions and pressure about the wedding plans, budget and your relationship with the new family can often weigh you down. You will both encounter a lot of challenges between this wonderful and unforgettable moment and the time you actually walk down that aisle. Here are some tips to keep you grounded after the engagement.
1. Continue Dating
The thrill and excitement of knowing that you have each other can lead you to a comfort zone. This should not be the end of the romantic dinner dates you used to enjoy. You still need that spark in the relationship especially now that you will be facing a lot of pressure in planning the wedding. Getting bored of the relationship is out of question. Making that attraction linger should be your goal as a couple.
2. Go for counseling
Pre-marital counseling for couples is a provision available in most religious or even mainstream counseling institutions. There are bound to be more temptations especially at this time. Arming yourself with the right kind of advice on this, and even how to deal with the new people coming into your life should be useful for both of you. You will also get relevant tips on how to deal with the pressure that comes with wedding planning and useful advice on how to handle the new institution that you are getting into.
3. Begin the wedding plans
Planning a wedding can be a challenging task. From coming up with a working budget, perfect venue, a guest list and many other things. For this reason, it is important to be able to think through the vision you have in mind. Take your time to think through what you really want for your wedding. How much do you want to spend? Can you afford it? Visiting a couple of wedding fairs and getting a wedding planner will go a long way in ensuring that your wedding is successful. While there is so much to do, being with the one you love should be your highest priority. The bigger picture should be your life together after the wedding.
The important thing to remember in this phase is that sticking together as a couple will enable you to come out stronger and set a good foundation for your future.