Many couples do not think about pre-marital counseling. I mean, you are at the peak of your love and want to spend the rest of your life together, your love could not be stronger and your relationship could not be better. Until an elder person or a church pastor mentions that you do need counseling before getting hitched. While you may think it is not for you, there is no harm in knowing what is covered in counseling sessions.
What they talk about in the sessions
You are different people, planning to merge into one. Opposites attract, you do have different backgrounds, view of life and reaction to situations. Differences may not be as huge and going far eep into backgrounds, they could be little things like you are an early riser and your partner is a night owl. These are things that will matter when you start living together, and you need to know how to come to an understanding about much other little stuff that you may have ignored.
Make a commitment no matter what
Marriage is a commitment, without a condition. Do not say I will stick with you unless this and that happens. You will have to mean your “for better for worse” phrase when you boldly say it on your wedding day. Pre-marital counseling helps you realize if you are really willing to commit to your love forever. Remove the fear of asking for professional counseling if necessary. It would be better to get help early than to see the marriage disintegrate beyond repair.
Model after the right couples
Identify a couple that you admire and follow them closely. Build a friendship with them such that they will have stories to share about their experiences with you and what they have learned from them. You can discuss this couple at pre-marital counseling sessions and realize more and more whether they are the right to emulate.
Is it for you?
Most couples think, “No, we don’t need that, we are fine!” Wrong, pre-marital counseling is not only for people with problems. This is a chance you get to confront issues that face people when you are married. When courting, you are still in the growing stage, growing into marriage. Get married and you may realize your communication is not that great, your partner is not all you thought they are.
Where to get Counseling
Most churches will require you to get counseling before you work down their isle. While some couples may take it for granted, take advantage of it. Almost all Kenyan churches offer pre-marital counseling; Mavuno Church, Nairobi Chapel, All Saints Cathedral and many more.