So, you think you know your partner good enough to marry them? Wait until you move in with them. That’s when you will get to know who they really are. Regardless of how healthy and promising your relationship seems today, you have to prepare yourself both physically and psychologically for whatever surprises the future may have in store for you.
The unfortunate thing is that it’s not easy to walk out of marriage especially in the African society where divorcees are viewed as losers. Fortunately, with premarital counseling you get to learn how to handle stressful situations and disappointments in your marriage. Here are four main reasons why you need premarital counseling.
Develop a Good Communication Approach
The only way couples can endure the inevitable highs and lows of marriage is through effective communication. Your premarital counseling expert will teach you how to effectively utilize verbal and nonverbal approaches to strengthen communication in your marriage. Research has shown that it’s the mundane, day-to-day interactions that sustain marriages. You therefore have to make a conscious commitment to communicate with your partner as often as humanly possible. It’s only by doing so that you can sensibly resolve issues when they arise.
Learn About Your Roles
Starting your marriage on the right footing means understanding each other’s responsibilities and agreeing on who handles what. It’s the only sure way to avoid quarrels in a relationship. This applies to even the most ordinary things such as house chores and sexual intimacy. Let your partner know what you expect of them in every aspect of your marriage. Through premarital counseling, you are able to openly and honestly discuss all issues and thus minimize surprises in the future.
Conflict Resolution Awareness
To think that your marriage will be smooth sailing is naïve. Conflict in marriages is a reality that not even the most committed couples can wish away. The important question is: How do you deal with conflict in your marriage? Premarital counseling should focus on how a couple can successfully address the inevitable conflicts through dialogue.
Developing Family Goals
Marriage is more or less the same as a business partnership. The only difference is that marriage involves every aspect of your life including physical, emotional and spiritual. So, marriage is the most important investment you will ever make in your life. Your premarital counselor should guide you in formulating your family goals and ensure they are realistic. Remember, only the two of you can decide where you want to go with your marriage. This is the opportunity to discuss issues such as children, property investments, and spiritual sustenance.