The first few months or years after getting married are some of the most exciting and challenging years. You are bound to make mistakes within the first few months. Even though you expect to make mistakes, there are a few common mistakes that you need to be aware of and hopefully avoid as newlyweds.
Having Unrealistic Expectations
The most common mistake of the newlyweds or anyone in a new relationship is to have unrealistic expectations. Your life is not a movie and you should not expect things to happen as if it was one. You need to allow your spouse to live like a real person and expect him/her to make mistakes along the way. You don’t have to overreact just because you had expected to have a perfect marriage and things don’t turn out as you expected.
Not dealing with disagreements properly
Every relationship will have disagreements at one point or the other. You should be prepared for this and have a plan if any disagreements arise. Do not ignore any differences that may arise as they will not go away, you have to face them as they come. Learn to communicate with your partner without overreacting even if he/she is the one on the wrong.
Wanting to be together all the time
Just like with any new relationship, you may want to be with your spouse all the time the first few months of your marriage. This might suffocate them and it is advisable that you let your spouse live his/her life, you don’t have to spend all your free time together. Allow your spouse to have his/her set of friends and don’t feel offended or get mad when they don’t invite you to hang out with them. Spending time away from each other is very helpful in bonding and you will end up being close through this.
Not nurturing the love
Most couples stop nurturing love the moment they get married. The romance dies and you end up getting by through life and not creating time for each other especially if you are both busy professionals. Do not take your relationship for granted and make sure to find time for each other and keep the fire burning. You can find some rituals or habits that remind you of each other to help out with this.
Compromising and making sacrifices
Most marriage counsellors will advise you to compromise when it comes to your spouse. This is very true to some extent but you should not be the only one compromising or making sacrifices all the time. You should both give up something so as to ensure no one is disappointed. Disappointments lead to resentment which might destroy your marriage.