You started off as childhood friends and then the relationship blossomed over the years. You’ve been in a relationship for the longest time until he finally went down on his knee and popped the big question in front of the world. Your heart is racing a million times and your mind is filled with so many thoughts. For someone who just got engaged, the news is definitely a source of excitement and anxiety at the same time.
You finally cannot wait to say your vows and the imagination of a future together is just something else altogether. Before you get all sentimental, here are some things that you should discuss with your spouse to think about anything else than your wedding day and your future together. Before you get all sentimental, here are a few things to clear up with your spouse way before the wedding.
They say money is the root of all evil. Truth be told, high rates of present day break-ups are due to money issues. Being open about your current status, your debts and gains is the first step towards establishing a strong relationship. Keeping secrets is a no no. Trusting and letting each other in on major financial projects will help keep the relationship healthy. Also it is important to know each other inside out. Are you a spender or a saver? Do you have a certain obsession like buying shoes or property? Your spouse may just be the right person to get you out of that rut.
If there is one contentious issue among couples, it is this – religion. If you are a Christian, Muslim or from whatever other religion, it is good to be clear about it from the onset of the relationship. There are higher chances of a couple from the same religion maintaining the relationship. This is because being of the same faith means that you might have the same value and belief system as opposed to what might be the case if you are from different faiths.
However, there is no problem with one partner leaving their faith for the other. Again, you can still be of different faiths and have clear guidelines on what you want of the relationship and future marriage. For example, what faith will the children take up?
Speaking of children, it is important to remember that some people do not want to have them as part of their union. If you’d love to nurture children, you do not want to get into a marriage only to later find out that your spouse is not interested in having any. Knowing each other’s expectations on children and parenting is essential. How many kids do you want to have? Does your partner mind adopting? Your marriage has higher chances of surviving if you agree on these major issues. Having a marriage counselor take this journey with you will help in establishing an unshakeable union.