He likes your company and enjoys having you around. In fact, you’ve been together for years, but he hasn’t popped the question yet! The truth is, there is a certain caliber of men who will date you with absolutely no intention of walking you down the aisle. As a result, a lot of good women live their lives in limbo, waiting for the day he will put a ring on it.
Beware ladies because he might just be in for the ride. Or he may be assuming that you are also enjoying the moment and have no desire to take the relationship to the next level. Let’s look at some red flags that indicate that he has no plans of putting a ring on your finger.
He always makes short term plans
He has no problem whatsoever to make plans for a dinner date tonight or the coming week but when it comes to long term plans such as your cousin’s wedding next year, he acts hesitant. Try and introduce a topic that involves long term commitments and you get an answer like, “that’s sounds great, but let us wait until it gets closer”. This is an indication that he does not picture himself with you in the long term future.
He avoids discussions relating to marriage and children
Every time your friends come over he always tries to divert discussions with the word marriage and children. He knows such discussions end up putting him on the spot to commit and will try and fight his way out before things get ugly and make him the villain.
He uses his work related issues as an excuse
When apparently he is too stressed with work related issues to think about marriage, think again. Marriage and commitment are independent and in fact complement work life. If he is serious, he will find a way to make you his wife regardless of his current circumstances.
You know his siblings and parents’ names but never met them
If you have dated for only a couple months, then this can be excused. However, dating a man for more than a year without ever meeting any of his family members simply means you are not good enough to be introduced to them as a future partner. Knowing their names or them hearing about you doesn’t count either. A serious man is eager to get you assimilated into his family and close relationships.
He avoids weddings
If he is avoiding wedding events, that’s a sign that he isn’t ready for his own. Your man’s feelings about attending weddings tell a lot about his perception towards marriage.
If by now you can identify these trends in your man, then it is time to rethink your relationship’s future. If you have been together for long, you could approach the subject so you can plan your future together with realistic timelines, or cut your losses and move on.