February 14th is the day of love. To some, it’s just another Friday. As we are busy giving people ideas on what to do for Valentine’s, there’s something important that we tend to forget- what you shouldn’t do. It’s ok to act lovey-dovey, dress up in red and let the whole world know how much you love each other. It’s also ok to do something special alone if you are single. For the girls, here is A Single Girl’s Valentine’s Day Checklist to give you an idea of what I mean.
If someone is taking you out on a date or you haven’t quite figured out your plans for the day, please don’t be tempted to do the following.
1. Call your ex
It’s normal to think of a past love if you are single on Valentine’s Day. Save yourself some dignity and look for fun ways to spend your day while single. You wouldn’t want to wake up the next day feeling like you made a big mistake. Remember, you broke up for a reason.
2. Complain (especially on social media)
Save all the complaints and quotes of being single for your diary. If everyone else around you is happy and enjoying the day, there is no reason to spread negative energy by posting distasteful comments on social media. Be happy for those who found love and quit overlooking the good in your life.
3. Looking at your phone throughout your date
The person in your life has spared some time to share this special day with you. Respect him/her (or rather, respect each other) and put your phones away. This person deserves undivided attention at least this time of the year.
4. Accept his mother’s dinner invitation
Would you like to spend Valentine’s Day with your in-laws? I know most people wouldn’t. This is not the time to try and impress the in-laws and be on your best behavior. Go out on a dinner date just the two of you, have fun and enjoy each other’s company.
5. Talk about what your friends were bought for by their significant others
The last thing you need to do is to start talking about what your friends were given by their lovers. You may do this indirectly and maybe he will ignore it. However, it’s wrong to make someone you love feel like he is not good enough. Gifts and material things don’t measure love. It may sound cliché but, the best things in life are free.
6. Hint about your proposal
Your biological clock is ticking or you feel that you’ve dated this man for so long and you finally deserve the ring. Pouring all manner of hints on your dinner date will not make him propose. Just enjoy everything around you and the fact that this person has chosen to be with you this special day. Save the complaints/hints for another day.
7. Carry a third wheel to your date
So someone asks you for a date on Valentine’s and you call your ‘single friend’ or ‘small sister’ to tag along? That’s a terrible idea. This is one of those few days in a year that you seriously need to be just the two of you. You will not be doing any justice to the person you are tagging along. This person will either end up feeling left out or you’ll find yourself giving your partner little or no attention. Remember, three is a crowd.
8. Take a girl out on a first date
First dates are usually a huge risk. They can turn out to be a nightmare or totally awesome. For the guys, you’ll have to make the perfect impression since it’s your first date. Choosing Valentine’s for your first date will just add on so much pressure.