The engagement phase is finally over, and you finally have that ring on your finger. The dreams you had as a couple seem to be coming to fruition – the wedding, starting a family and maybe even those great jobs you’ve always yearned for.
With all these things going, it is easy to forget what you promised each other through courtship, engagement and even on the wedding day. While it may not be entirely intentional, couples often get off track when it comes to fulfilling each other’s needs and expectations.
You love each other alright, and are the most admirable couple around. So when you start drifting apart everyone fails to understand why. Truth be told, couples get into a union with different expectations. When they are not met, problems start setting in leading into a downward spiral that only you two can resolve. Here a few tips on how to deal with the disappointment that often comes with crushed expectations.
Communicate your Priorities
Your partner cannot read your mind to know exactly what you expect. Mutual communication is necessary in ensuring that your relationship remains firm. How about communicating your expectations right from the beginning? This does not mean that you will not have to remind your loved one of your aspirations through courtship, the engagement phase and even in marriage. We are all human after all. Getting to know each other is a key essential in making the relationship work. What are your roles and what are his? Creating a check list on expectations should be a great step towards making it successful.
Beware of Reality
Perfection happens in dreams. There will definitely be times when your partner misses on fulfilling that one need that you truly cherish. You too, might fail at one instance or another. Circumstances of life often push us to the wall to such an extent that we forget who we really are. Remaining intimate can help you disclose your expectations in such a way that will not spur any arguments.
Learn to Let Go
Holding onto a grudge for a long time will only lead to more misunderstanding. While you may be disappointed, you should not let it take a toll on the relationship. Learning to let go will not only heal the relationship but also make you feel better. It will work magic in enhancing that relationship.