Some married women cut ties with their single friends as soon as they say “I Do”. If she had been doing the weekly coffee with the girls, it becomes monthly coffee and soon after the occasional meeting. While some married men do not like their wives hanging out with the single girls, in other cases it is the married woman that keeps the single girls very far away from her husband.
Are single women predators?
Of late there have been stories of single ladies dating married men either on casual basis or clande situations. There is therefore the reaction by married women to keep their men tethered around their little finger. But really, are the single girls that bad or is it the married women that are clingy?
In my search for words to pen down in this article, one married woman told me she would not allow her single friend to spend the night in her house. She can visit, laugh over a meal, but spending the night? Nah! Some ladies even went as far as saying the only woman they would trust with their men is their mother and mother-in-law.
Some say the single friends appear more attractive. They have time to work on their looks, not babies and hubbies. Their husbands therefore will notice their single friends’ low cleavage and the shiny newly retouched hair. Others say the single women get desperate especially when their biological clock is ticking fast.
Are single women jealous of their married friends?
Before marriage, girls discuss their boys probably all the time they hang out together. One married woman said she does not discuss her husband with her single friends anymore. “They might hear of how good he is and want to have him,” she said; “or how bad he is and see it as an opportunity to come between us.”
Are they your real friends?
If you are afraid that your friends might prey on your husband, are they really your friends? I mean, how do you call such a person a friend, if you cannot trust them with your husband, even in your presence? I believe it is also insulting to the genuine single friend if they knew that is what you think about them. There are genuine friends out there, right? One married woman says it is just precaution, there are a lot of predators out there, you don’t know which one is your friend.
Oh the poor prey!
Is the problem really about the single friends? How defenseless is the prey? Maybe ladies forget there is only so much you can do to make sure their husbands are faithful, straying is entirely the man’s choice. One married woman, who does not mind her single friends said, “If I had to keep him from my friends, maybe it is him and our relationship I should worry about. I trust my husband”
What of husband’s single friends?
As we discussed this with a group of ladies, one mentioned that we are leaving out the real culprit; the husband’s single friends. She dared to say these are the real devils, and it is great that when you are married to make friends with married couples.
I guess there is more to this debate than I thought. I will quote one contributor though, “Even if my husband is a priest and my friend is a nun, trusting them is a no no!”
I am done for now.