You may have finally found him – that one person that completes you. Over the years, the relationship has blossomed into something beautiful that is only threatened by one thing -Fights. They have lately become a constant feature; an ugly sore that will not go away. They come at the least expected moments; like when you are indoors enjoying a quiet evening, or even when you are out with other couples. They start from the lamest of discussions and may result in great destruction emotionally, financially and even physically.
All couples fight or disagree on issues at one point or another. Fighting is actually one of the signs that a couple needs to see a counselor. However, it is important to ensure that you handle your fights in a proper way; one that will seek a resolution and not destroy the good relationship that you have going on. Just how should you handle fights in a relationship?
Always Deal With Your Emotions
Your feelings may have been hurt and you are probably being accused of something that you did or did not do. However, no amount of name calling, shouting or even hitting someone will make you feel better. If anything, it will only worsen the problem that could have been solved by simply seating down and having a small and sober discussion. If you find yourself on the verge of a fight, it is important to give yourselves time to deal with your emotions first. You may both probably have had a rough day at work or other stresses could be leading to this kind of reaction. How about allowing yourself to take a break first, instead of doing something that you may live to regret?
You need to take a break to calm down. If you cannot control your anger, take a walk, go out for a drive, just anything that will keep you away from confronting your partner when you are bitter and angry to a point that you will not be in a position to control your actions. That break might just be your saving grace from a break up.
Handle the Problem Maturely
After a break you are not only more relaxed but also in a position to handle your problems more rationally. This way, you will be able to think through them together and see what the real challenges are. Communicating maturely not only gives you an opportunity to let each other know how you feel, but also leaves you as friends looking in the same direction.
Everyone gets angry. It is of utmost importance that you learn to control your anger lest it affects you and your loved ones. While there are some issues that you shouldn’t just let go of, there are those that you should not sweat about. Learning to communicate and resolve problems amicably should be your ultimate goal to maintain healthy relationships.