By Vanessa Mwangi
After reading the infamous 50 shades of Grey, what woman didn’t fantasize about their own personal Christian Grey? Do countless arrays of romantic scenes in movies and novels placed in the back of our minds, result in disappointment when faced with reality?
You lock eyes with a handsome stranger while strolling in the town. You’re on opposite sides of the street, there’s an instant spark, and the rest of the world moves in slow motion while you meet each other halfway on the motorway and stare lovingly into each other’s eyes.
Reality: Meet each other through a friend, get his number, agree to go on a date, and have several uncomfortable moments and possibly alcohol before you decide to give him a chance at it.
Falling in Love-Fantasy
After saving you from an idiot trying to take advantage of you, or from a speeding vehicle, you realize your intense feelings for him, and allow yourself to fall hard.
Reality: You fall for him when you’re crazy hungry and find out he can cook quite well.
You’re looking sexy in your expensive lingerie, and with your intense, kinky sex moves, you’ll be the only woman occupying his mind for the rest of his sexual life. This includes saying your name even when he’s ‘at it’ with other women.
Reality: You’ll probably lose interest for a few seconds, a bit revolted by all his sweating. But all in all, the experience was pretty okay.
When You Get Sick-Fantasy
He’ll be overly worried when he finds out you’ve been hospitalized or wounded or just with the flu. Jumping through hoops to rush to the hospital or your house, where he spends the night holding your hand and being supportive.
Reality: He’ll probably just text you, asking about your progress so as to know when he can be near you again. Maybe come and visit at some point.
It’ll be dramatic and very sappy. He’ll cry and go down on his knees begging you not to leave him. It’s not him or you, it’s everything else; the universe doesn’t want you two be together.
Reality: It’s going to be awkward and uncomfortable and one person always gets more offended or hurt. He’ll probably do it through the phone, after avoiding you for a while. Or suddenly change his Facebook relationship status without so much as a heads up.
He will come running in the rain to your doorstep, with a washed up buke of flowers pouring out his feelings about how there is no one else like you, and how he can’t live without you.
Reality: He’ll probably text you about how much he misses you with a follow up on when and where you should meet each other. Or possibly call you when he’s drunk.
He will take you on a surprise trip to the Bahamas, and propose to you in the most romantic, unexpected way. With candles, violins, and oh yes, your whole family will be there since he paid for them to come, because he is rich.
Reality: He’ll probably suggest marriage over a nice dinner. More emotional points if your family is present.
At the end of the day the reality of things are the memories and moments we collect in our minds. So what if our reality might not compare to our fantasy? It’s real, and real, genuine love is enough.
About the Author
Vanessa Mwangi or nessa_shera is a seasoned blogger who enjoys writing article pieces that generally mirror her own interests. As a writer Vanessa’s short articles have appeared in several online publications. When she is not writing, she enjoys reading, listening to music, and eating out. You can reach Vanessa on firstname.lastname@example.org