It’s unfortunate to see many people holding on to abusive marriages and relationships because of ignorance and for fear of being seen as failures. There are many dangers of staying in an abusive marriage, including death. The only way to avoid tragedies that result from an abusive marriage is to understand what amounts to abuse and how to read the first signs. Here are some of the signs you should look out for in your partner.
Possessiveness isn’t a bad thing but it becomes poisonous if your partner is possessive to the extent of denying you freedom of movement and association. If your partner doesn’t want you to interact with other people, whether male or female, and wants you to explain every detail of your movement, it can be interpreted as being over possessive. If not tamed in time, insecurity can easily bring down a seemingly healthy relationship.
A partner becomes abusive if they are always accusing you of everything wrong that’s happening in life. It is very difficult to live with someone who is always looking at you through the glasses of suspicion. With such a partner, you will always feel insignificant, and responsible whenever something wrong happens.
Offensive Public Criticism and Teasing
It’s not normal for husband and wife to wash their dirty linen in public. Generally, there are things a partner is not expected to say about their spouse in front of people. So, if your partner wants to always embarrass you in public, it is a huge red flag. He or she will always want to stamp their authority over you in the most indecent and embarrassing way. That’s a sure sign of an abusive partner.
One of the most obvious signs of an abusive marriage is physical abuse such as hitting, shoving, grabbing, insulting and threatening. There is no justification for your spouse to get physical with you under whatever circumstances. Unfortunately, many people ignore the initial signs of abuse thinking that it’s a one-off incident. If they hit you today, chances are they will hit you tomorrow.
Many people do not believe that sexual abuse can happen in marriage. The truth is that sexual intercourse is supposed to be enjoyed by all parties involved. However, an abusive partner believes that sex should happen whenever and wherever they need it. They do not care what their partner feels. An abusive spouse will also come up with some weird fantasies and order their spouse to comply.
If you notice any of these signs in your marriage, you should immediately take action before it turns tragic. Seek help from a qualified marriage counselor who will help you solve the problem in the most sustainable way.