Would you marry the person you are currently dating? Why? This is one of the most life changing decisions you will ever make. Is the timing right? Will this person help me fulfill my lifelong goals? Why him/her? Don’t ever assume that the answer is obvious. Always take your time to think through your decision.
I understand when someone wants to get married because they are head over heels in love. I think the best reason to get married is because you found your soul-mate. You can never find the perfect man to get married to. This doesn’t mean that you should settle for less. Know what your priorities are when looking for a lifelong partner.
If you are a bride having cold feet or you know a friend or a family member who is about to make a big mistake, this one is for you. If you want to get married for any of the reasons below, please don’t.
All my friends are getting married
If everyone is getting married, talking about marriage or obsessing over marriage and kids, it’s easy to feel pressured to make a decision that you are not ready for. The worst reason to jump into marriage is because you feel left out. Get used to the pressure you are getting from your family or friends. It’s normal.
The biological clock is ticking
Don’t get into a marriage because you want a child. Getting the wrong father for your child is purely selfish. Your dream of having a child can be fulfilled in so many other ways. Get yourself a good husband then you will show your child what it means to be in a happy marriage. He is not the only person who will pop the question, trust me.
Your partner is rich- a good provider
It may sound cliché but, money comes and goes. There is never a guarantee that the person’s job or businesses will always be secure. Money can disappear without notice and then what happens? Your marriage will crumble.
You’ve been dating for a long time
Many couples who have dated for a long time get married simply because they have been in the relationship for too long. The length of a relationship doesn’t determine how successful your marriage will be. You could have had little or no connection for all those years. Don’t get married because of familiarity.
To make that person change
A marriage certificate is no guarantee that the person will change the way they treat you or how they behave. If he drinks, getting married will not stop him. Don’t get married because you want to force your partner to change his behaviors.
You are having his child
If you loved the father of your child and you saw yourself marrying him even before the baby, then by all means go ahead. However, if you never thought of any lifelong commitment with your baby daddy but it seems like the right thing to do, don’t. Both of you together may not offer this child a stable and loving home.
Because you don’t know how to say no
How can you say no to that big, stunning rock on your finger? You have been dreaming about this for so long, your biological clock is ticking and your parents are constantly bugging you to hurry up and get married. He asked so I have to say yes. No you don’t. Just because he asked, doesn’t mean you have to say yes if you don’t feel it. Don’t walk into a miserable marriage with your eyes open.