Before you get engaged, there are some things you must know about the person you are planning on sharing forever with. You may think that you know them inside out but this might not be the case most of the time. Below are five things that you may want to find out before you say YES.
What values do you share?
You need to find out what values you share with your significant other. From religion to family, you need to know where your partner stands on these issues and figure out if you can live with them if you don’t share the same values. You also need to find room to accommodate your partner if you do not share the same values. Some things you have to compromise and for the sake of your relationship, don’t expect to get your way all the time.
Commitment to his/her work
Before getting married, you need to know how committed your partner is to his/her work. You do not want to marry your partner who is already married to his or her job as this might not turn out to be the best marriage for you. Even if your partner is committed to his/her work, the least they can do is have a work and life balance you are comfortable with.
What about children?
Children play a very important role in marriage and you need to know where your partner stands before you tie the knot. This should also be on top of your mind when you are in a serious relationship. You need to know if your partner wants them and then find out how many he/she wants. Still on this, you have to find out how each of you will play the role of parents even if you have a high-powered career.
Before getting married, you need to know if you are sexually compatible with your partner. Are your sex drives in sync? Do you have the same approach and views on sex? This is a very important topic to explore because mutually fulfilling sex is the cornerstone of any marriage. Try and understand your partner’s sexual needs as this will determine how wild or boring your sexual adventures will be.
Lastly, you will need to find out your partner’s financial status. You have to find out if they have any debts and whether you have a chance of achieving your financial goals together. Is your partner ready to share bank accounts with you? Are you comfortable with this?
Honesty and open communication is important between the two of you before taking that big leap. Do not be afraid to ask these questions during your courting days as they can save you both a lot of heartbreak in the future.